Doctormom's reply helps a lot. thanks.

I too am getting secondaries. to all the other mommd's out there who are getting them -- are you having as hard a time with them as I am?

They make me so nervous...I've never been good at selling myself. And although I know deep in my heart that I want to be a doctor and have grades and MCATs that support this, I have the worst time explaining WHY. I think it's largely because I feel like I need to defend my right to be a doctor, even though that's rarely the question. People what to know "why will you be a good doctor?" more than they want to know "what makes you think you should be a doctor?" But my mind always switches the two questions when I sit down to write...
Thanks for the space to vent...and I look forward to hearing other suggestions about how to approach these secondaries.
--Jen