I am 33 yrs old with a 8 month old, a 10yr old and a 39 yr old man who acts as though he is one of the kids. We found out that I am pregnant :guilty: .

I know it is a tough situation. I am currently debating my own pregnancy. However, my circumstances are a little different, I am no longer with the father, I am a first year med student and I have no family nearby to help. The father is willing to take responsibility, but prefers an abortion. I have never been in this situation. I always imagined that if I ever was in this situation my decision would be easier knowing the circumstances. But what I have found is that I am still torn. A part of me cant imagine getting an abortion, yet I want to give my child everything I can, and with the current situation I fear I wont be around for him/her. Maybe you should sit down with your husband and really have a serious talk about what it is he fears so much. I have found that the counselors at Planned Parenthood have by far been the most understanding and sympathetic of all the professionals I have spoken to. They are non judgemental, do not make assumptions, and are very neutral. Most people have either told me to be 2)smart about the situation or b)follow my heart and what is best. Of course the two conflict. I think the more I refelct on it, the more I am able to come to terms with what I want to do. I wish you the best during this difficult time. I think in the end, you are the one who will have to live with the decision, so do what you will feel best about about, whatever that decision may be. Hugs :grouphug:

Hey ladies,

I know you are stuggling with very tough decisions, but don't forget that adoption is a very good option as well. There are so many families who can't have a baby on their own who dream of caring for a newborn from a Mom who loves her child but needs to make a different choice for her child. Please seriously consider giving your child up for adoption (either open adoption where you pick the family, or closed adoption) before you decide on abortion...you child could be a long wished for gift to a wonderful family.

Well, we are having this baby and doing decent :rolleyes: We both are getting sick, just like the last pregnancy. Reading your diaries have gotten me to this point. I am very blessed to have my health and my only worry of having to juggle 3 kids and a husband. I know our marriage will need some work, but it needed work anyway.

The posts on determination to be a doctor is keeping my dream alive :rotfl: . I am too old to kid myself. I know I have an up hill battle. What's new.