Okay, so after my touchy feely answer yesterday back to the real world:

Anger Chronicle #652:
Had a test yesterday that I've been studying my arse off for so when I got home I decided to catch up on some much needed housework and cook a decently healthy meal that I thought my kids might eat. Cooked up a storm, put it on the table, my 7 year old sits down claps his hand over his motuh and says "I can't eat that or I'll throw up!" Into the corner he goes for being rude at the dinner table - it was roast, and carrots and potatoes and rolls for God's sake - not caviar and raw oysters! Finally got this issue straightened out, sat down with my own plate and my 4 year old knocks a glass of milk over and it goes over everything within a 2 mile radius. Am I an angry Mom? You better believe it!

I have been an angry mom too....and still am sometimes. Parenting is probably the most challenging thing I've ever done emotionally, partly because I feel there are no easy choices.

I was happy as a sahm for the first 18 months....and then I just lost it. The happiest I was as a mom was when I went back to school for my post-bacc and my MS....I was less irritable with the kids and my dh. I felt productive beyond the drudgery of laundry, Barney, diapers and cleaning up. I felt much more fulfilled.

The flipside for me though was that the stress of trying to prepare for certain exams or papers sometimes sent me over the edge too :p

One of the reasons that I just can't be a sahm is that I become a much 'angrier mom' because of my loneliness, frustration and resentment.

That being said, I recently gave notice at my adjunct faculty position because the work environment was so unbearable for me. With the stress of the interactions at work I had become an 'angry mom' (and 'angry wife' )and I was distant to boot. I have found lately that I am not patient at all and that I'm easily provoked. Instead of striking a balance, I have been unhappy and irritable.

So...I'm currently looking towards a 'new chapter' of searching for that balanace.

Happy mom = Happy family

kris

I can't say that I've been an anrgy Mom, but I have certainly battled depression from about 1997- 2003. Sick parents including one that died, passing up med school, struggling to finish grad school, having a job I HATED and a bad marriage/divorce made for a VERY unhappy me! Sometimes I look back at this time and think to myself that I only made with the grace of God!

Holler (pun intended) anymore ANGRY or FORMER ANGRY MOMS!! Let's form Angry Moms Anonymous! :banghead: :laughing: :hyper:

You know, what bothers me the most about this is that it is sort of an usspoken taboo to even mention this. If you confess to feeling anything other than gleeful bliss at caring for your offspring you're often made to feel like 'less than' by other moms...who are likely also angry moms that just won't admit it.

I hate the mommy competitiveness that goes on.

From the looks of the responses, it appears that I'm the only single parent in this thread. Just wondering and I truly hope no one is offended by the question, but could it be that the primary source of all the angnst comes form being an angry wife? I know I was one in my first marriage because I had to do every dam thing!!!

Ya know, my fiance is ALWAYS saying that I have a VERY distorted view of what is "normal". After rereading some of the repsonses in this thread, it looks like what everyone calls "Angry Mom" behavior, seems pretty "normal" to me!
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It seems like it's better to blow every day a little than let it to build up inside.

The mommy competition can be so sick.....I was a loner and just waited for my working pals to get together. Much working moms don't have time for this crap! LOL!!!!

We have to find the time to do something for ourselves.....for me is as little as washing my hair, doing my nails (at the salon or my bathroom)......

So moms, what have you done for *yourself* lately?

Dental mom.

Ok, here goes few stories....

A Phycologist friend got laid off from work, fired the babysitter of her 6 months old baby & decided to stay home and babysit other kids to make money. She ended watching a newborn, and a 8 months old then her own baby was 10 months! Then she had another baby...so she had to change 4 diapers! Ok, this went on for 3 yrs.....now she asked the moms to take her schildren some where else becuase she can't handle the emotional stress anymore.....my happy friend become so weird. She got lost in raising kids and almost got divorsed. She went to the extreme with the kids thing

Another friend is married to an ENT. Has all the money is the world, but gets depressed watching her 3 yr old. Will not have more children, and is a full time Realtor and Mortgage Broker. Well, good for her for doing something right?

Another friend, is a Dentist is another state but has never pass the FL board and stays home. Her husband makes a lot, and she is home frustrated with her now 7 yr old. Won't have more kids either....hates to be home, and now travels to another state to work!

I can go on and on! Pretty much ALL my friends have some kind of anger. I like to see the ones that become SAHM and talk crap about SAHM that don't like it! Then after few months I ask how's everything going and they explode! :rotfl:

Wouldn't be nice if like Europe we get paid 60% for 1 yr for maternity leave? Europe also has great benefits like the Gov. pays most of the childcare too, so the mom can work part time! AND they pay almost as much taxes as we do here!

Sorry for the book...

Dental mom.

Europe sounds great BUT for sure European men for the most part do NOT help at ALL! I am basing this on Mediterranean men in general and there are exceptions but you could NOT pay me enough to be married to a European man, I fleed the country so I would not have to marry a Spaniard he he. So let me tell you these women literally work their arse off at home..they guys do NOTHING no matter how many kiddos/jobs the mother has. Anyways the grass always looks greener...