Has anyone out there got teenage daughters being raised/ or have been raised by their husband (said girls' father) while they are away studying medicine? :boggled: to complete my undergrad. degree. I suppose it heartens me that despite all the minor and not so minor dramas we have had that they still want me to continue. :yikes:

Hi Rita!
How old is your daughter?
I'm not there fully yet but I will be this fall. My daughter, who will be 16, is moving to live with my ex-husband who is an excellent father.
I'm hoping to be entering med school in 2005 and she will be heading to college then as well.
She's having a difficult time with her step-brother who lives with us (which causes more problems with her step-father - my current husband), so she and I agreed that she could spend the last 2 yrs with her dad.
I wouldn't be able to let her go if I didn't think her dad was capable of taking care of things. One thing that really helps is that even though he's my ex, we've maintained a solid foundation for our daughter.
She usually spends summers with him so I have a little experience with it. Yes, it irked me at first when I realized that she haves more fun with him than she does with me. After I got over my insecure feelings, however, I realized that it was good for my daughter. As for homework, his wife & my daughter are great friends - so she can help. (He's hopeless with academics!)
My daughter understands my commitment to her and she tell me often how proud she is of me for pursuing my dreams.
It's a relief to know that someone else is taking care of important matters while your energy is sapped from studying.
Just keep the lines of communications open about 'girl' things. Things that dad may not be completely comfortable with. "So what's the best thing you like about this boy? Does he do anything that annoys you?"
Sounds like you'll get through this just fine.

Thanks bzmum4 for replying and your suggestions . My husband/hubby is pretty good at most things, he will even buy sanitary products when he weekly shops Was is it with them?! Sometimes I think I am the one who is getting it easy being away from home, but there are difficulties with lonliness and just plain missing the hug and "I love you Mum" :guilty: .
Sorry to hear that your daughter is moving in with Dad, but it may be the best solution at this time. I wouldn't worry about having more fun with Dad. Non-custodial step parents and their kids generally have a slightly different relationship with their kids than the custodial parent. It may even reverse, and she sees you as 'the fun parent' because you make time especially for her :cloud9: . Her step-mom sounds great, so that should make extended parenting no harder. Hopefully things between her and her stepbrother and so her stepfather will resolve themselves eventually. I hope things go well for you and you get into med school in 2005.