As you already know, Florida's Real State market is really hot. Most "idiots" I know think that I'm crazy becuase I left loans to go to school for 8 yrs? :goodvibes:

Medical school may be 12 years (~16 for me ) by life is EVERY day!!! I just look at it as a "job" for which I'll be paid little but will enjoy, some days, a LOT!!!! In the meantime, I'll keep "Livin my life like it's golden"!!!!!!

Hi,

I know how you feel. My mom is not very supportive. Actually she really does not say anything. She skips over the discussion. My hubby and sister are my support and backbone. I just don't tell anyone anymore. I am sooo tired of getting the :yikes: and tired of explaining myself. I just tell them I am undecided.

Well at least we have eachother right? :grouphug:

That's funny that the above poster said, "my mom skips over the discussion"--that's exactly what mine does! In fact, if the topic of med school comes up on the phone when she and my father are on, she hangs up!

Crazy! My parents were terribly unsupportive when I told them I was not going to be practicing law (I did graduate from law school but immediately went to a post-bacc.) They were annoyed about it for about 2 years. Now, they're starting to be neutral, but they still think I'm nuts.

-Law

You would think that parents would support you in anything you choose to study. One thing is to guide us, but another thing is to tell you that you are wasting your time.

Well, the market here will go down one day. All these people that are making mega bucks, will not longer make anything one day....and me? Oh yeah, the crazy one that spent yrs in school? Well, I'll have a decent secure job, stable income, a biz, and I'll be watching beautiful sunsets knowing that people will always have teeth, and will always come to me! :yes:

Wow, this is somewhat funny.
I thought I was the only one with a family that is not ultra-supportive of the whole med school thing.
My parents are not against it or anything, but, this is really weird, my mother keeps saying that I can't be a doctor because I'm afraid of insects! (I really don't like insects and I get very scared around them - like heart pounding and everything :boggled: ) but that has nothing to do with medicine, and my mom keeps implying that since I can't handle that aspect of "nature", I can't handle like sick people or something!
Plus, I think that they are afraid that I will graduate college with no "useful" degree and never make it to medical school, thereby "ruining" my future!

:scratchchin:

:boggled: but ok! I also have the unsupportive family thing. My future mother/father in laws don't respond much about my choice in education. My fiance is a cop and 10 years older, so they look at me like a young(27?) divorced mom, I guess using him for my dream. They pay no attention to my success in college, only the fact that he will support me for another 9 years. Not to mention that I will make triple his income. They just care about now. I guess it's because his dad is a retired cop and his mom worked in a bank. Maybe they don't understand that not just anybody can be a doctor. Maybe they don't understand what it takes and what I have and how hard it is to bacome a doctor. Not to mention how rewarding I KNOW it will be. I think I would get more respect if I were still a waitress, rather than working towards an MD. Funny how that is, but like said before, we'll see in the long run. I'll be screaming HAAA NOW WHAT!!! Inside of course Don't ya all wish ya could fast forward to see all of the negative peoples reactions when were all doctors and HAPPY!!! I mean it takes rather smart people to be doctors, does that not account for anything to these people? :banghead: That's ok, we'll all be laughing inside one day :laughing: !!!!! Take care!

Lawtomd
Why did you go to law school if you wanted to be a doctor?

I think part of the deal is fear, they don't want to admit there is more out there than what they are doing and if you change something that puts them outside of their comfort zone. I come from a huge extended family ( I think Jeff Foxworthy used us for his comedy routine) and am one of the few to graduate from high school and the first to go to university (not to mention still have all my own teeth!).
You shoulda heard the razzing I used to get at Xmas about how I was wasting my life at school and should be working in the real world!! Ack... I don't wanna pick blueberries for the rest of my life thank you very much!
As they say... the best revenge is success :rotfl: go for it!!

From someone in the same boat, I really appreciate hearing this and knowing I'm not the only one dealing with reactions from the rest of the world about how crazy I must be to go back to school for so long, or about how I must be avoiding the "real" world by trying to pursue medicine.

I've also taken comfort in hearing about other woman with graduate degrees or other careers who are "giving that up" and going for their dreams to be a doctor. Personally, I'm about to finish law school and realized from almost day one that it wasn't what I wanted to do, but at that point I was stubborn and just stuck it out. For me, the decision to go to law school was partly because I thought it was too late to pursue medicine (because I'd already finished by BA at that point). I also didn't have a real idea about what legal practice involved and thought it would be satisfying, but haven't found it to be so, for me.

I guess for some of us, the journey is more of a winding and looping sort of road, one that's taken many detours along the way, and I just have to learn to be ok with that. :scratchchin:

I have days when the negative coments get to my nerves. But there days--when I'm 100% deaf to negative coments. Most of my Mds and dentists that I know give me the green light to go for it. People that have never been in College are always the ones after me trying to make me change my mind. Also there are some that never wen tto College and are always positive about the whole thing.

Isn't this sad? How can you put anyone's--specially women--dreams down? :boggled:

You ladies are such a great support. I'm glad I found women who are in my same boat. I know, I will leave the boat sooner than you that are going to med school....but for now, we have to prove them that they wrong!

Dental mom.

Yeah, even after I posted my last post in this , my sister who was my gaurdian after my mom died when I was 10yrs old was handing out negetivity. She is dependant on her jerk husband and is 38. She said to me "that's a long time in school, wont you bee too old to be a doctor, what if Ed (my fiance) leaves you"? Oh yeah, thats encouraging. I remained calm but wanted to scream "Are you f-k-g kidding me? I will be a doctor when I'm your age, you don't have to be 25 to be a doctor!!!" People just don't understand, and it's almost sad that I get my only genuine encouragement for people like you on mommd. Thanks girls, you are my inspiration.

Gosh, every time I visit this site, the discussion is so grabbing and every post I read makes me wanna go, "OOh! Me too! Me too!"

The only person who has fully supported my goals has been my mother. I'm still an education major, and from day 1, she has told me, "You don't want to be a teacher, you hate teachers (at least the local, catty ones). Do something you want to do, and not just b/c of the vacation and short workday."

Anyway, I've let my husband talk me out of med school several times, though now I know for sure that no matter what happens I am going to pursue it, and I let my mother know yesterday that after December 10 (last day of the semester) I am officially changing my major to Biology. But I was also doubtful of my abilities. "Mom," I said, "I can barely get through Math 101- college algebra! There is so much math involved and I hate all these stinkin formulas! I'll never memorize them all..." And she said, "OH yes you will! Jayne, you have been rambling about med school for 3 years now. This is your thing, and if you really want to, you will get through it!! Everyone has at least one obstacle, and if math is your only one (let's not forget painful shyness), you'll make it!" My mother is so awesome. It makes me cry when I think of how encouraging and supportive she is...but then I have more than that one other obstacle.

My husband- "you'll be almost 40 when you finish! Where does that leave me??" etc...).

My friends- "hahahaha!" "Oh, another ambition, sure, whatever." "Please, you dropped out of high school and have attended college sporadically (last part not true)," "I'll believe it when I see it..." "You have a family, three kids and a husband, are you crazy? Your oldest will be graduating from high school the same year you graduate med school- IF you get accepted the first time!"

Ladies, I have been visiting this forum for a while now on and off. I've sought advice from you a few times and tried to comfort you others. I've shared my plans with you and I've paced myself based on your wonderful, comforting, inspiring advice. It just makes me so happy to know that I am not alone in this, and that I'm not the only one facing those derned "obstacles." Mom telling me that everyone faces them reminded me of coming here. Thanks guys. Even when you may not realize how much your own personal trials mean to someone else, they really make a difference.

Amen to that! Good for you and good luck to you! I will also be finishing up (residency) when my oldest graduates. But it's not like my life ends at 40yrs. I will have several youthfull years to practice medicine. It's better to look back and be happy you did than to look back and wish you did!!!! Go for it girl!