I have to add a story for it is indirectly related to this topic. My sister had a child at 17. Decided 9 mos after having him, it wasnt for her..became irresponsible, and my mother, single, was left to raise him. She then later had 2 addtional children...my mom left to raise the dtr (my little niece) at about age2, and my younger sister to raise the baby boy at 5 months old, mind you, my sister did not desire to have children of here own, but stepped up to the plate. Well, she is now(my older sister who already turned her back on 3) pregnant yet again. And we are all wondering who is going to take care of this child, for we are not confident she will ever be the mother she should be. My mom jokingly stated that it was my turn to take care of the baby, since she and my younger sister have the others. I said NOT! I have 6 I am raising now. Not that I dont love that unborn child, I just refuse to contribute to her irresponsibility. Maybe if she KNEW she had no other choice but to raise the baby HERSELF, she would do it. It is such a pity. Why, she can get pregnant at the drop of a hat, when all of these other people who have such trouble conceiving and would probably make great parents. As sad as it would be to let my own flesh and blood (the unborn child) be put up for adoption, I feel this could be the only option in the event she decides to not be a mom, yet again, for the 4th time. She never learns....