I have a problem with a friend's son. He's a very child no dicipline child. He has no boundaries, no rules, no good manners. He does and says what ever he wants. He's out on the street and the mom can't find him most of the time...so this is my son's favorite friend since pre school. I don't see them much, but when we do it's a disaster. I almost had a heart attack yesterday when I invited him over. I was sick actually. Today he's here again and so far it's been manageble but stressful. My friend would not offer to take him to her house, but at least today she took them to the movies...I really like the mom and dad (an MD by the way) the are nice people, but when it comes to their only child is a mess.

How can I keep my friendship with them? When they go to movies the talk and people ask them to be quiet, when we go to the pool I just want to hide. My son is wild, but not this out of control wild. My kids have manners, and have respect for others. Thsi child even hits my 2.5 yr old!

Is it possible to have him at my house at him get the idea that I have rules? He told me that I have to many rules! Hum, so a 6.5 yr old jumping on the couch, screaming, heating, and hiting a glass table should be OK? I don't feel bad telling the kid my rules, but it is taxing!

Any hopes here?

Sorry for the poor grammar. Every 30 seconds I had to asked this child to stop jumping on the couch, hitting my son, and so on....I really don't know what to do :boggled:

I expect him to behave in my house as I expect my children to. This has caused me to have issues with certain relatives who shall remain unnamed at this time but over time it does work. If you don't go kooky yourself. Just cause someone is an MD doesn't mean they know how to parent effectively. In my house you hit you sit (I stole that from Barbara Coloroso kids are worth it). I also put other peoples kids in "the big chair" to calm down. If they don't like it, home they go.
When parents call I explain their child cannot perform behaviour in my home that I will not tolerate in my own kids. Most are pretty good about it and the kids always want to come back (I make pretty good chocolate chip cookies too :rolleyes: ) good luck

mommydionne, I'm glad to hear that you can give a child like this a time out and the parents understand.

I hope I didn't sound like becuase the dad is an MD the kid is supposed to be perfect

Even though he says I have too many rules, he wants to come back tomorrow. I praised him for any 10 seconds he was gentle and calm, and they even won a trip to have Gelato.

I'm very tired now.....

Stick to your guns. A kid like that is desperately seeking attention, but needs to learn the proper way to get it. You will be doing him a HUGE favor by helping him learn something about the right way to get along in the world. Kids like that need boundaries, and actually feel more secure when they have them, even though they don't act like it. When he complains about the number of rules in your house, simply explain to him calmly that the rules are made to help everyone have a good time and make sure nobody gets hurt and nobody's stuff gets damaged, and that if he doesn't like the rules, he is free to leave. Explain to your son that it will be better for everyone if this boy learns to follow your rules and that he will be more fun to play with when he does. Tell your son you need his help to make this happen, and let him help by exerting some peer pressure on the other kid. You never know, his parents might actually learn something from you.

Anna, so nice to hear your opinion too My son goes with the flow But when it comes to hitting, or pushing his little brother he stops that. I heard him few times telling his friend that what he was doing was not Ok or that he could get hurt. So that put a big smile on my face

It's so much easier to just ignore kids and let them do what they want Parents like this are never stressed out! They just don't care! But I wonder how life with a teenager like this would be?

Out of all the SAHMs I know, this is the only one I click with and I think it's possible to keep the kids close....