:wave: Hi ladies, its me again!

yes yes, with another Plump question - how do I know if I'm just an over-reactive mom regarding her babysitter trying to help me out (i.e. her telling me Plump may benefit from a schedule almost sent me into a caniption!) or if there is a problem? What I'm asking is this, I think I may end up being this way with ANYONE watching Plump, so how can I calm myself down a bit? Any advice/ideas she tries to give leads me to think terrible things like "Oh shes frazzled because Plump had a bad day" or "What is she doing drugs? Is that why she 'appears' wound up" (found out later she has really bad OCD and is pretty hyper all the time, this after I spent all night thinking she was on crack or something)

I don't know if its me, or what. I don't want to just put plump somewhere else (she really is good with her and she sits and talks with me in the morning, doesn't really question stuff if I say how its going to be - I'm just being a freak!)unless I HAVE to - shes really gotten used to my sitter.

So any advice on this adjustment would be great - is it because I don't want any other woman raising her but me?

I think you might be over reacting a little bit. I think most kids benefit more from a schedule (my son does) and that she is just trying to help you being a new mom and all. She sounds pretty sincere about her suggestions and if your baby is doing well there - why mess with it? Good care is very very hard to find and if the lady is a little hyper that could be a good thing especially if she's like my husband and is a neat freak on top of it all :goodvibes: Perhaps you should take a step back and analyze what you have a problem with. Is it really a problem? OR is it that you would rather be home with your baby? We have all gone through this. Sometimes you just have to listen, nod, then go home and do what's best for you. I've had great sitters flat out tell me "you should do this, that, blah, blah, blah". I say I will consider your suggestion, leave, scream in my car on the way home and do things my way in the end. :crossfingers: My kid, my life but at care if they are happy, I leave it alone.

Thanks Kathie! I really jsut needed someone to "tell" me I'm overreacting you know?

It makes me feel better knowing that EVERYONE has gone through this - its like I said, Plump is doing great there, honestly - why am I having a problem with it? Because as you said, I would MUCH RATHER BE WITH HER THAN ANYWHERE ELSE! :yes:

Thank you for your encouragement and again, I'm so glad I found this forum, you ladies are wonderful

I agree with Kathie. Kids DO need a schedule. Of course, it doesn't have to be followed exactly and compulsively, and it's OK to deviate a bit from it, but overall I think it makes for a calmer and less chaotic house, and happy, well-rested kids. Sometimes I wonder if the epidemic of ADHD we are seeing these days is at least in some part due to the lack of a consistent and predictable schedule in many homes. You will notice, if you ever watch SuperNanny (I LOVE SuperNanny), that the first thing she does when she comes in to straighten out a screwed-up family is to post a big schedule on the wall. It works. Plump will appreciate the predictablility.

The bottom line is: how is plump doing? If she is happy and thriving, then you can relax a little. Give the schedule a chance and see how it goes. Good luck!

She IS doing great Ironically, she IS on her own schedule which I notice she's been on for the past 6 weeks, perhaps that why I was a bit perturbed. She takes her morning nap, afternoon nap and sleeps through the night.

But you both are right and she is doing well so "I" should leave well enough alone. I'm learning

Thanks so much for your support!

Plump :hyper:

Hey Plump,

I saw in your diary that you think the babes might be teething??? Here are some things that I used during that time.


Beef Jerky - the large sticks to be gummed not swallowed

Rubber spatula. Freeze the end and then put it back on the handle so babes can hold - great fun.

I used the numbing medicine at night with tylenol.

My kids would not use the teething "toys"

OH thanks so much Kathie!

SHe has been getting a bit more fussy than usual, I will try your tricks!

As for the sitter, i called her today and she actually isn't feeling very good, shes got a cold so on Monday she said she was still fighting it off, see? you were right, I was over-reacting so I've stopped now, thank you for that too

She even said to me: Oh don't make her go on a schedule (so she has the same idea as me!)

I feel bad now for doubting her, I guess this is all part of the whole new parent thing.

Am I supposed to freeze her teething toys? I didn't know that! :boggled:

Thanks Path! And I was reading your post in the forum, I'm sure you will do great (just like I said in that thread) I didn't realize you were also applying to other schools far away - I just want you to know that even if you did have to do the weekend thing, that WOULD be doable too, I thought this was that you'd PREFER to be away


I'll pray you get in near your hubby and daughter!

Plump :hyper: