It's great to have so many vibrant, well spoken women on this forum.

Please introduce yourself - we'd love to meet you!

I am a general internist with a blended family of 4 kids--3 now in college. I work part-time in a group of 6 other women internists in a private, outpatient practice, which I love. The only downside is that we sacrifice income for control of our practice and lives...but it has been well worth it so far!

Nice to find this site. I am a General Internist in Texas. I have a "yours, mine and our" family with seven children/young adults. I also have 2 grandchildren. I work with 3 other physicians in a hospital owned office. It would have been nice to have a support system as I was going through medical school as a single mom of 3. If I can help anyone just let me know or ask questions.
Thanks,
Kim

I've a 10 months old son. Entered Med sch 4 months back and just had our summative exam this afternoon! well, my batchmates they had done revision like 10 cycles before the exam while I just did my revision once and could't finsih! I wonder how the other single mother-medical student managed to find time for studies. and my batchmates they found out i'm single mother. since then, no one is really close to me. even with facebook, no one would tag me nor send me a msg and just nothing. Besides they are 2 or 3 years younger than me. I wonder how to be part of them again.

myAntidote - I'm not included in a lot of the "girls" outings, because I am married. There are only three of us married females in my class, and the other girl is also excluded and the third lives 1.5 hours away, so naturally she is excluded, but she is also mom to three and doesn't care. The other girl and I have talked about it before, and we really do think it is because we are married. As archaic as this sounds, you may not even want to be included in some things, because your interests may be different. I have sought out friendships with some of the other girls who are a bit quieter or enjoy other things than the mass "girl" events that are planned, and that has been very fulfilling. I also became very good friends with a girl in another year at school, and she and I do a lot of fun things together - and despite she being single - has no bias against me for being married nor expecting as I am now.

The right girls/friends are still there for you. I know you are a single mom, but I feel we face similar bias from being simply different than the average single girl in medical school who is ~22 to 24 or so. Try to meet some people in other years as I did maybe? Or seek out the very quiet girls in class, because I found they are really sweet gems of people that were simply brushed aside by the girls that plan most of the events. The right people that will make you feel less lonely I know are there, but it may take some looking to find them.

You sound like you attend a foreign school, so I don't understand all your terms, but I hope my advice helps. Best of luck!

Hello, I'm interested in mentoring here, empty nested tax attorney from medical family (brother, sister, dad & husband MDs), and I have raised 4 children to highly successful young adulthood (none in medicine so far, one left in college)--far and away my greatest accomplishment and privilege. Time for me to give back all I know about getting through this stressful life. I am probably best at parenting, second best at teaching (I teach CME on risk, stress, taxes, practice management) financial, career and business advising, and know a LOT about medical specialists because I work for and with them, teaching and experiencing the impact of the work environment and financial pressure on families. Nothing like a little first hand experience, is there?

With my last one in college, and having heard the riff so many times about sacrificing income for family, there are things that can be done that I would say 99% of physician groups don't know about. I am guessing that, depending on what your spouse? does, tax is your biggest ticket budget item, and will be soon for these younger doctors. On my bandwagon, I know, but women doctors work so hard, they shouldn't have to give up "income" and should keep a LOT more of what they earn. Your group is a good size to find the losses and stop some bleeding. PM me for ideas, if you like, and kudos for giving back here.

Hello MomMDs! I have lurked for years and years, turning to this site for advice at each stage of the game. I feel like I have finally arrived. I am 33, have two kids aged 5 and 2.5, been married for 9 years to a surgeon (saw him all the way through from med school, residency and fellowship). I finished EM residency and am working extremely part time at the moment, enjoying time with the kids and trying to feel balanced again. EM is so perfect for working part time and keeping flexible-- as long as I don't have to be the major breadwinner. I've said since med school that a full time EM career can be really tough and difficult to sustain over the years. I plan to add shifts in a few months because I do like to go to work and it really keeps me sane (as long as I don't do it too much!).

Hello, so glad to have found this site! Hearing everyone's stories is helping me as I am at a crossroads at this point. Have been married for 2 years and now wanting to start a family but still in residency (ENT surgery) and considering a fellowship too. Not sure how to make it all work, especially with a surgical subspecialty. Both my husband and I had SAHMs, so we have high expectations for how involved we should be in our kids lives, he doesn't even want to have a nanny at all. I would love to hear how others handled pregnancy in residency, and especially from any of you out there in a surgical field since I know a lot of Peds and OB programs have moved towards being more family friendly, still not quite happening in the more "boys club" specialties. Thanks!

Hello there;
I am a foreign medical graduate who just 2 weeks ago applied for USMLE 1. I am marry to IM hospitalist and we have a 5 y.o girl. I am looking for suggestions on how to go through all the process and specially for encouragement to continue. Thank you. A