I want to be supportive, yet realistic. I made a similar decision 15 years ago- 3 kids, Dr. husband, no time for family or marriage. Staying home was too good to be true. So tired of nanny's raising my kids. Then one day, years later, he left and now it is super difficult to go back. Without current references, noone will consider hiring a Dr who hasn't worked in years. Please consider trying to find a job that will allow you to work one day a week, even at a walk-in clinic, just to keep your skills current or volunteer at a free clinic one evening a week. Just something to keep in mind - even if he would never leave, he could get injured or die.