Thank you all so much for your ideas! I am going to try to reach out to my friend periodically to just offer love and support, and do my best to make sure she doesn't feel pressured to respond if she's not ready. I know she and her husband named the baby and had a burial over the weekend - it is so heart wrenching to think about. I hope she pulls through this (she will never get over it), and I wish that no woman ever had to suffer such pain.

As far as this friend who is ranting about the medical bill, I personally don't believe she should get any different financial treatment because she had a bad outcome. But of course I would keep that to myself and give her as much support as I can.

Thanks Clee. I feel for her, but yeah.