So my attitude is very different than the author's. And my husband and I tried to make things more fair. I breastfeed. He changes diapers. And I mean he changes diapers even after I am done breastfeeding. He washes all the bottles and pump parts. He puts together the pump parts and bottles in the pump bag for me for work. After I night wean, he gets the night duty. He brings baby to rock climbing and watches him so I can still climb while I breastfeed. Does it even things out completely? No. But I also get to breastfeed. I feel like this is not unlike pregnancy and birth. It is way more work, but he will never have the experience of baby's first kick or holding a new born that just came out of you in your arms.
But in some ways, that matches the author's attitude - she concludes that much of it *is* worth it to her, at this point - she just (1) wants it acknowledged that it is a point of imbalance, and (2) that it's worth it primarily because of the experience itself, not because of critical health effects for the infant.
Or perhaps I'm reading it that way because it's how I feel about it =).
I think the thing I want acknowledged is that it does impact women professionally. We can *totally* say it's worth it - that's fine. That's what we do with kids all the time - that's like 80% of this forum, in fact. But it's important to acknowledge that it's a trade off we're making, and it's helpful at the same time to be honest about (and feel like others are being honest with us about) the good and bad of the available options while we're at it.
Last little thought: I think it's awesome that your husband does all the pump part washing and assembling, Clee03m (as does mine), but... even this seems like it should be noted as a cost! I mean, with no parental leave at all, my husband already gets little enough time with kids - it's a shame to suck a non-negligible chunk of it up into such a non-rewarding activity as washing and assembling pump parts!