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12 years 10 months ago #63086 by Dreamer
When you have finally come to the conclusion that your current doctor is a bad egg...what is the proper way to go about changing doctors? I don't want to offend this man or burn a bridge (he is not affiliated with my school directly but he is buddies with a lot of doctors who are) but I need to change.
I am half-way through a pregnancy, have a very scary history (never had a full-term delivery), I started having contractions last weekend every five minutes. First of all he didn't believe me. Then said I could go to L&D but that they couldn't even monitor me there. As it turned out he did end up sending me there and I was contracting on those monitors that were not possible to use. He said he was going to refer me to MFM but can't seem to get it done and can't seem to return a phone call either. These are just the last straws in a long string of things that just leave me uncomfortable. He told me how silly it is to be doing anything at all since the baby is not yet to the age of viability. This is just not the doctor for me.

So, do I just get a new doctor and never go back? Do I tell him I am leaving and tell the truth of why? Do I make something up that is maybe less offensive? Does it really matter?
Just wondered how you all would handle this.

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12 years 10 months ago #63087 by TLC
This may not be the "best" way, but I decided to move my children to a different physician. I was unhappy with a few issues that occurred with the staff and not the physician. I called the office and asked for a copy of ALL medical records they had and then set up an appointment with a new physician, and have had no contact since. I didn't see a reason to make an issue out of it, or to make anyone have a difficult time. I did have to pay a small copying fee, $20 - I think. I don't think there would be anything wrong with addressing it as long as you don't go in there in attack mode :-).

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12 years 10 months ago #63088 by Baby Einstein
Don't be afraid of offending anybody. I'm sure this happens all the time. Just do what's right for you and your baby. You can always explain later if you wish, but focus on your pregnancy right now! No need to worry about that, you have enough stress to handle as it is. Good luck with your pregnancy.

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12 years 10 months ago #63089 by drvicky
First, I am so happy that you are doing well. I think about you often. Don't hesitate for a second to change doctors. You deserve someone who values you and this pregnancy as much as you do. With your history you should be at a great high risk Ob. be your own best advocate. I am keeping you and your sweet baby in my prayers. I am currently 37w6d and can't wait for sweet Ava to arrive. Vicky

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12 years 10 months ago #63090 by Lali
Changing doctors is not a big deal - patients do it all the time for various reasons, ie their insurance changes, they want someone closer, their not satisfied with the care... Most doctors are okay with that and have no hard feelings. Just like they don't care for some patients, some patients won't care for them. If you feel akward about picking up your recors, have them faxed directly to your new MD's office.
Having my doctor not return my calls or not take my concerns serious would be an absolut indication for me to switch doctors.
Lali

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12 years 10 months ago #63091 by mommd2b

Originally posted by drvicky:
I am currently 37w6d and can't wait for sweet Ava to arrive. Vicky

Vicky, I have often wondered how you are doing. I'm glad you're approaching the finish line and things are going well!

I wouldn't worry about offending your doc either. I think that there are a few ways to go about it....Could you contact a maternal fetal medicine specialist on your own and set up the appointment? You could either have no further contact with your ob or you could explain that he was recommended to you by the er docs.

I know that I had a lot of periods of contracting during my last pregnancy and went in to be monitored on several occasions. They weren't visible on the monitors and I was told that because they couldn't see them, they weren't there. I was given this "could be gas, could be anxiety, drink more water" stuff...I got exasperated one time and I moved the monitor thingies (technical term :D ) myself after the nurse left. I basically put it over the areas where I felt the contracting and then left it alone.

The staff came in about 10 minutes later to tell me that they had been watching and that I was contracting regularly and would need to stay.

It can be very frustrating. Trust your gut!

I hope things turn out well for you and that you can find a doc that you trust. Keep us posted.

Kris

In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.

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