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Interesting point. I was at a meeting recently of PhD's, MD's and MD/PhD's and students for the afore mentioned disciplines. I have to be honest when I tell you that I had long talks with these inspiring women and not ONE of them had any complaints about ANYTHING. The only "negative" comment made was from the surgeon in the group who told me that she rarely sees her children and that her husband is a SAHD. Then the very next day, her ENTIRE family arrived at the meeting (including the children) to cheer her on (She' going to be featured on my website if anyone is interested).
Originally posted by Empi:
I was at a meeting last week and we had a similar discussion No woman seems comfortible in her own skin.
I used to think this way too but now I believe that it's almost impossible to change most men from what they've been doing since the beginning of time. So instead of forcing them to fit a mode I just don't believe most are cut out for, I think it's best to "force" them to provide the means for you to do what YOU need to do so you can have a career too. Now I'm not talking about changing diapers or getting up in the middle of the night to feed the baby. They CAN do those things. But let's face it, men are not only the weaker sex but the dumbest too and to expect them to be able to multitask the way I see working Moms doing all the time is asking too much. Now if he doesn't want to PAY for the Nanny/Sitter or maid to keep the house clean, then I say kick his neaderthal a$$ to the curb!!!
Originally posted by sahmd:
I agree with all the comments so far about how husbands aren't making sacrifices.
It would be good if there were more flexibility for moms. What I'd ideally like to do if/when I get married and have kids (which I hope to someday if I can find a really great guy) is for him to work during the day and me stay home with the kids, and then I could work a couple of evenings a week when he's home, while the kids are young. Then when they're in school I could work during the days, maybe three a week. (I'm going to go for a masters in nursing and be an NP--I was going to do med school and then decided I like the nursing perspective as far as prevention and pt education etc. and it would have more flexibility for having a family). That way, I could still work some but be with my kids the majority of the time and when I'm not, their dad would be there and get to spend some quality time with them. And I agree about SAHMs being looked down upon as being "dumb"--people should realize there are other ways to get that intellectual stimulation, such as reading (which I do all the time!), which can be done at home or pretty much anywhere, and learning all sorts of new things that way--just make a trip to the library! And then you can teach your kids lots of useful things!
Originally posted by mommd2b:
Great....It sounds like these women are really thinking about what the demands of parenting will mean to them and what they want for themselves/family in realistic terms.
I'm not saying that it isn't possible for you to be a good lawyer, doctor, teacher, enginner etc and to be a good mom...but it isn't for everyone. To top it off...working part-time just isn't a great option for many moms. Many fields don't offer good part-time opportunities. Maybe these women will be bringing in the next 'wave'...maybe we'll see a pendulum swing to a middle ground..where women can take some career time off and find more flexible jobs that work well with family.
Right now, most women who choose to stay home still are looked down upon as if they were too dumb to do anything else. After all, many working moms would just 'go crazy' if they had to stay home full-time. This must mean that the sahm's just don't need as much intellectual stimulation or something...