20 bucks an hour PLUS room and board, PLUS she wants you to pay for her personal items (ask her if she would be expecting her boss to pay for her toothpaste and shampoo if she worked at McDonalds for minimum wage)???!!!
Give her notice, tell her it's just not working out and that she will be so much happier working for the people who will pay her 20 bucks an hour. Then get your husband up to speed watching the kids until you can find a high school or college girl to help out in the evening for 10 bucks an hour.
Thanks for all you replies. Last night, I got home early, so I took care of the kids in the evening. The nanny made dinner, but didn't even cut up the food for the kids or prepare their dinner plates. She said, since I was home, she thought I would be doing it. I really started wondering... what am I paying her to do????
My husband and I are discussing how to let her go. It will be more stressful for us. But the reality is that we really need to figure out how to take care of the family by ourselves. He realizes he needs to step up to the plate.