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carliz wrote: I haven't been in your exact position, but I'd like to offer a perspective to consider. (For what it's worth...)
I am a mommy of a beautiful 3 year old daughter. She's the light of my life, and she makes me feel like the luckiest mom on the planet. So I understand your desire to have children. And as I think back to 'pre-child' me, the idea of having kids AND doing school would've been an absolute 'no way.' I saw both as all consuming, and I just didn't envision a way that the 2 could coincide.
Fast forward a few years... and now I'm going back to school at 33...and I look back and wonder what in the world I used to do with all my free time?!? Having a new baby is overwhelming and wonderful--but you CAN still have a life. And you can certainly go to school and have a child. People do it every day... lots of women right here on this site...with 3, 4, even 5 kids... It just takes planning, good time management, and a solid support system.
With any new change, it seems crazy and difficult at first. But then you reach a new sort of homeostasis, and it becomes your new 'normal.' I promise that I would've had your same thoughts in your position... but being on the other side and now being in the 'mommy club' for a few years, I just want to offer the encouragement that the two really can happen at the same time. Having a baby while you go to school isn't throwing anything anyway with regard to your career.
On the other hand--you have plenty of time! You're still in your 20's...and I understand baby fever, trust me--but if you decide to delay the family planning, that's perfectly fine too! There's no right or wrong answer here. It's simply that each choice will require different planning. You have some wonderful opportunities ahead of you--embrace them and just go with what you feel is right for your family! **You worked hard and earned that spot in the program next year. I would think long and hard before turning it down!
Kids change your life forever...and you really do find a new 'normal.' It's the best change I ever could've imagined--and my daughter makes me stronger. I'm glad she'll be around for this journey.
Best of luck, whatever you decide will be completely ok!