Baby nurses: Did anyone use a baby nurse after you had your babies? Was it helpful? My friend suggested it to me because I'm having twins, and will be recovering from 4 months of bedrest and c-section after we bring the babies home. We don't have family near-by, and my DH managed to go on so many vacations by himself this year that he has saved only 1 wk of vacation for after the boys are born, so I'll be home alone with the babies right from the start. How long does it take to recover from a c-section? Will being on bedrest for over 4 months really make me that deconditioned? Calling around, the going rate is $2000/week for a baby nurse. Is it worth it?
Back to your question about combining daycare and nanny at night: Actually sending the twins to daycare during the day and then hiring someone for the night would end up being way more expensive, since daycare will cost almost the same as having a nanny for the day, and then we would still have to pay the night person. Also, the risk with daycare is that if either baby gets sick, I have no backup daycare. I also can't take any more time off work because I'm using up all my leave for the pregancy and the bedrest for the remainder of my fellowship.
tsunami, I was pretty deconditioned after 4.5 months of bedrest. My legs got really skinny and I got short of breath and tired after climbing one flight of stairs. It is hard to know how much of the SOB and fatigue was due to the term pregnancy, though. After I went off bedrest at 37 weeks, I made an effort to get out and about every day, and my symptoms did seem to lessen during the two weeks prior to delivery.
My husband took 1 day off from work after the baby was born, BTW.
Thanks for everyone's replies. I guess I don't really know how much help I am going to need. Being a parent for the first time and having twins is really scaring me. I don't know the first thing about babies. Even during peds rotation in med school, they wouldn't really let any of the med students examine or get near the infants.
I would like more help, but in reality, we can't afford it. The 2nd mortgage we are taking would cover the salary for one daytime nanny since I am unpaid these 6 months I am out. As for a baby nurse, that sounds really nice, but DH and I talked about it, and unless we can pay the baby nurse with credit card, we can't do it. We're just trying to cut everything down to the necessities...
I'm not complaining that DH only has 1 wk off for the delivery and after the babies are born. I'm kind of ticked off that he gets 4 wks of vacation and he's used it all up. Even after we found out we were having twins, he has gone on surfing vacations for 1 wk at a time, alone or with one other surf buddy. In fact, he's gone surfing this week while I'm at home on bedrest.
BERKLEYITE - I am already taking off extra time from fellowship that I need to make up at the end. My original finish date was June 2007, but I'm going to have to make up 6 months at the end of fellowship due to all the time on bedrest and 8 wks off after the babies are born. It doesn't seem like enough time. It's not a problem with the fellowship program as long as I am back for my inpatient service Mar, Apr, May, & Jun, but because I have to make up 6 months through Dec 2007, I will miss the deadline for both my subspecialty boards.