I am a general internist with a blended family of 4 kids--3 now in college. I work part-time in a group of 6 other women internists in a private, outpatient practice, which I love. The only downside is that we sacrifice income for control of our practice and lives...but it has been well worth it so far!
Nice to find this site. I am a General Internist in Texas. I have a "yours, mine and our" family with seven children/young adults. I also have 2 grandchildren. I work with 3 other physicians in a hospital owned office. It would have been nice to have a support system as I was going through medical school as a single mom of 3. If I can help anyone just let me know or ask questions.
I've a 10 months old son. Entered Med sch 4 months back and just had our summative exam this afternoon! well, my batchmates they had done revision like 10 cycles before the exam while I just did my revision once and could't finsih! I wonder how the other single mother-medical student managed to find time for studies. and my batchmates they found out i'm single mother. since then, no one is really close to me. even with facebook, no one would tag me nor send me a msg and just nothing. Besides they are 2 or 3 years younger than me. I wonder how to be part of them again.
myAntidote - I'm not included in a lot of the "girls" outings, because I am married. There are only three of us married females in my class, and the other girl is also excluded and the third lives 1.5 hours away, so naturally she is excluded, but she is also mom to three and doesn't care. The other girl and I have talked about it before, and we really do think it is because we are married. As archaic as this sounds, you may not even want to be included in some things, because your interests may be different. I have sought out friendships with some of the other girls who are a bit quieter or enjoy other things than the mass "girl" events that are planned, and that has been very fulfilling. I also became very good friends with a girl in another year at school, and she and I do a lot of fun things together - and despite she being single - has no bias against me for being married nor expecting as I am now.
The right girls/friends are still there for you. I know you are a single mom, but I feel we face similar bias from being simply different than the average single girl in medical school who is ~22 to 24 or so. Try to meet some people in other years as I did maybe? Or seek out the very quiet girls in class, because I found they are really sweet gems of people that were simply brushed aside by the girls that plan most of the events. The right people that will make you feel less lonely I know are there, but it may take some looking to find them.
You sound like you attend a foreign school, so I don't understand all your terms, but I hope my advice helps. Best of luck!
Hello, I'm interested in mentoring here, empty nested tax attorney from medical family (brother, sister, dad & husband MDs), and I have raised 4 children to highly successful young adulthood (none in medicine so far, one left in college)--far and away my greatest accomplishment and privilege. Time for me to give back all I know about getting through this stressful life. I am probably best at parenting, second best at teaching (I teach CME on risk, stress, taxes, practice management) financial, career and business advising, and know a LOT about medical specialists because I work for and with them, teaching and experiencing the impact of the work environment and financial pressure on families. Nothing like a little first hand experience, is there?
Married 29 yrs to neuroradiologist,sister, brother, dad MDs. Tax financial consulting attorney.