I am a 30 year old wife and mother if 2 children ages 9 and 10. I've been married nearly 11 years to my high school sweet heart whom I love dearly. He is a Veterinarian and we own the animal clinic where he works and it has been a wonderful blessing. I knew when I graduated high school I wanted to become a teacher or a doctor or both. Since my husband and I both had big dreams when we graduated high school, I decided to teach first before persuing my dream of becoming a doctor. I taught Health Science Technology (an elective class)for 7 years to high school age students. It was a great experience and allowed me to stay connected with medical terminology, anatomy and physiology, and to expose high school students to clinicals at local hospitals. I taught skills such as CPR, Vital Signs, and sponsored a Health Occupation Students of America (HOSA) club which made me feel like I was making a difference as a teacher. I have a Bachelor degree in Health Sciences (3.02 GPA)and a Masters degree in Human Resource Management (3.96 GPA). I even obtained my school Administration certification hoping a leadership role in public schools might fullfill my leadership desires but still was not successful. I have been trying to satisfy my "family medicine" medical doctor calling with my current career for years but I have not been able to do so. My husband does not understand my situation at all. I recently considered enrolling in a post-bachelor degree nursing program (and was accepted to it) to try and satisfy my strong desire to work in the health care industry. My husband IS supportive of the idea of me becoming a Nurse Practioner or Physician Assistant and working in Family Medicine. He does not like the idea of me becoming a medical doctor because of the lifestyle involved. He is lucky to NOT have to be on call as a Veterinarian and I have always been home with our kids in the summers, holidays, etc. He likes the fact I balance housework, being a mother, and wife so well and does not want the stress of me being a medical doctor. I can't say I blame him but I dream daily of working with low income or indigent care patients. I want to make a difference by making assessments, diagnosis', ordering tests, and I do want some hands on exerpeince with patient care too. (Drawing blood, etc.) Being a doctor is not about the money to me because we live in a half a million dollar home on the ocean and have a nice lifestyle. I know in 10 years when my kids are grown and I am 40 I may not feel so guilty about applying to medical school BUT today I am faced with the decision of getting my RN and then working towards Nurse Practioner someday, OR applying to medical school in the next few years and seeing what happens. I have been a member of MOMMD since 2003 so this STRONG desire to become a doctor has nudged me for over a decade. (I lost my original screen/password/email address years ago and created a new one.) I wish someone with the same experience or "calling" could help me weigh out this decision...I need to give the nursing school an answer in 2 weeks. I do not want to end up regretting my decision to become a RN/NP in the long run (like I did getting my Master Degree/School Administration certification) all to think why didn't I go for MD in the first place? I recently told a friend about my situation and she said going for another Bachelor degree in Nursing and then another Masters degree in Nurse Practioner sounds like I am starting school all over again. I explained to her both nursing programs (RN & NP) are online via distance education at a local University and sound more "family friendly" PLUS I have not found a Physician Assistant school via distance education in our area. I explained to her Medical school right now does not sound as flexible with me having elementary age kids. She thinks I should go for the MD.....maybe she has a point. My husbands thinks since I want to work in family medicine and not be a surgeon or specialist there are more flexible "Family Friendly" options to practice family medicine than grueling medical school. Thank you for your advice....
The most beautiful things in the world can not be seen or heard, they must be felt within your heart. ~Hellen Keller
I read your post and I have the same desire to become a doctor that you have. Now that I'm 40, I can tell you that the desire to become a doctor does not go away. In fact, it only becomes more pronounced. You sound like you'd be a great candidate for med school and my recommendation is to never settle.
During my lifetime, I have met countless women at dinner parties who all wish they had followed their hearts and gone to medical or law school. It is awful to live a life of regret! If you can convince your husband to accept your decision, I would say to follow your heart and become a doctor.
You will be able to do medical school but- remember you will have to make sacrifices- it will be hard to maintain a social network, or friends. It is hard to have solid friendships in med school. No one has time to be there for you. Age makes it harder. Your kids will miss you. I feel that I am a total different human being now than I was before medicine. I am not necessairly sure if it is bad thing, just different.